Would Be Gone By Esmerelda

i miss us, 

the moment we shared,

The time short,

We used to text each other at the same time the feelings we had,

The feelings people saw and beefed us beefed me

I miss it so much,

When I used to write for you,

You’d look at me and tell me you loved me,

Where is that love we shared?

Gone... I guess

But it’s alright 

I could do a week without you. . .

I did it once,

But it was really the most dreaded feelings,

We had shared something,

It is like a bond between us,

In one place,

Bear it in mind that, one day, you wouldn’t see me

You’d want to feel me but I wouldn’t be there

You’d want to reach out to touch my lips

But. . . I’d be far away

Because I wouldn’t be there 

.

I don’t want to do this,

I don’t want to let you go,

But. . .

You keep putting a lot of girls above me,

You knew. . . I was still there when you need me, 

I dunno how I’m gonna live without you,

Now that I’m dating but I still have a broken heart,

How long would this last?

.

I can’t think straight,

When you’re done playing around,

I know you’d come back around,

Maybe not today,

Neither is it going to be tomorrow. . .

One thing I know for sure is

You’d find me but you wouldn’t see me

Because I’d be far beyond reach 

My heart is being withdrawn from you

Away from you 

I’m almost like a stranger and all you want to do is apologize

I ain’t a kid no more 

We’ve gone this far 

It’s alright if you want it to end it.

I had survived once 

And I can do it again many times

I know teenage love never last 

It always ends one day 

Because . . . 

It’s either you get tired

Or you find someone better

Well if you have 

Good luck with it

And ill-luck to me for sticking around for too long...

July2014

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A Story Or A Poem

I don't know if to call this a story or a poem but I hope you enjoy it,

He wasn't feeling straight on himself then he had to check on his friends,

Little did he know he was far from his ends but his girl was rocking a Benz,

Met up at the bar with a glass in her hands too pretty to be true,

Curvy lady looking set her smile fire she lit my jet,

Let's fly out to a place where no one can relate,

I take you like my brother and love you like my mother,

But I can't assure you a relation even if we sailing in ships,

Moods changed and couple days she was feeling pain,

I understand the pressure of sitting on the fence,

Hoping you make a dollar or you create a chance,

My OG said Loyalty is rare If you find it keep it,

Because this ladies will always hurt you when they are probably busy,

Then the pressure kicks in dressed in Nike,

Just to messed up all we built and you allowed it,

Flowers on the ground and all you could do was sniff through it,

Positivity is everything you will be needing to raise above the storm,

Even when they hate you please still carry on,

Because this life is a battle and only the strong can live on,

Never let your present determine what is in the future.

- Dicey

Learn ABC'S Of The LGBTQIA's Community

 LGBTQ means Lesbian, Gay, Transgender”,Queer. most people know of these four terms, but sometimes you can get extensions of LGBT, like LGBTQIA. There are so many different terms people use for sexuality and gender out there, it can get a little confusing. The LGBTQIA+ community is one that has seen many of such changes. From being largely unrecognised and ignored to coming to be known as LGBTQ community

     Hopefully this article will be able to show there is a lot more than just LGBT and that you don’t have to fit into a box, no one really fits entirely into a definition, but we hope you are able to find these definitions helpful.

Ace: Informal Term and interchangeable with a sexual.

Androgyne: Someone who does not identify with being male or female, or identifies as a mixture of the two.

Androromantic: Someone who experiences romantic attraction to male or masculine individuals.

Androsexual: Someone who is sexually attracted to men and masculinity.

Agender: Someone who doesn’t have a gender.

Allies: A straight person who supports the LGBT community or a cis person who supports the transgender community.

Aromatic: Someone who does not experience romatic attraction.

Assigned gender: The gender someone is assigned at birth.

Assigned sex: The sex someone is assigned with at birth

Binary: Split into two separate parts, often a prejudiced view e.g. gender binaries are male/female, binaries for sexuality are 

homosexual/straight.

Binding: A method of flattening a part of your body to align with your gender identity or gender expression i.e. binding the breasts to create the appearance of a flat chest.

Bigender: Someone who identifies with both female and male gender.

Bisexual: Someone who is sexually attracted to the sexes male and female.

Biromantic: Someone who experiences romatic attraction to the male and female sex.

Butch: A female identified person with a more masculine appearance and presentation. Also a term used for masculine gender expression.

Cisgendered: Someone whose gender matches that of the sex they were assigned at birth. Often shortened to Cis.

Closet: A term used when someone has not revealed their gender identity or sexual orientation status i.e. being in the closet.

Coming out: The act of an individual revealing to family, friends or colleagues their gender identity or sexual orientation.

Crossdressing: When someone dresses in clothes that are opposite to the norm of their gender or sex identity, but it may be part of their gender expression.

Demisexual: Someone who doesn’t feel attracted to someone until they have established an emotional connection.

Drag: A form of crossdressing, it is often used in performance art.

Disclosure: This could be revealing if you have a sexually transmitted infection to previous or present partners; your sexual orientation; sexual preference or transgender status.

Dyke: A derogatory term directed at lesbians, although some may choose to identify this way or reclaim it.

Dysphoria: A common term used for transgender individuals that includes feelings of restlessness, anxiety, despair and depression, i.e. society or body dysphoria.

Faggot: A derogatory term directed at gay people, although some may choose to identify this way or reclaim it.

Femme: A gender expression that leans on the feminine spectrum.

FTM: Female to male transgender or transsexual individual.

Gay: A widely accepted term for all samesex 

attractions/sexuality. Interchangeable with homosexual.

Gender binary: The concept that gender is a binary, comprised of male and female.

Genderless: Someone who doesn’t identify with any gender.

Gender neutral: Someone who does not feel they identify with any gender identity.

Genderqueer: Someone who identifies outside the gender binary.

Heteroromatic: Someone who is interested in having a relationship with the opposite gender as themselves, but not interested in sex.

Heterosexual: Someone who is sexually attracted to someone of the opposite gender to themselves.

Homosexual: Someone who is sexually attracted to the same gender as themselves.

Homophobia: The discrimination and hatred of gay and lesbian individuals.

Homoromantic: Someone who experiences romantic attraction to the same gender identity as themselves.

HRT: Abbreviation of Hormone Replacement Therapy, a common choice for transgender individuals in transition.

Intersex: People born with some combination of both male and female genitalia. Corrective surgery/hormonal treatment can be used 

during the person’s life so they align with one sex

Lesbian: A female identified person who is sexually attracted to other female identified people.

Metrosexual: A straight man with taste and style who knows about fashion, art and culture.

Metamour: Word used by polyamorists (see P) to refer to partners.

MSM: Men who have sex with men.

MTF: Male to female transgender or transsexual individual.

Neutrois: The exact definition is being disputed, but there is a general consensus it is an individual with a null, neutral or lack of gender.

Non-binary: Someone who does not fit into the binary or either sexuality norms or gender norms.

No labels: Some people choose not to label themselves.

Omnisexual: Interchangeable with pansexual (see P).

Padding: The act of adding mass to a part of your body to conform with your gender identity or gender expression i.e. stuffing a bra to 

create or enhance the appearance of breasts.

Packing: A method of creating the appearance and sensation of a penis, often using a device meant for this purpose called a packer.

Panromantic: An individual who experiences romantic attraction to all genders.

Pansexual: A sexual attraction, sexual desire, romantic love, or emotional attraction towards persons of all gender identities and 

biological sexes.

Polyamorous: Someone who has more than one sexual attraction to multiple, but not all genders.

Post-op: A term used by transgender individuals who have undergone surgery.

Pronoun: A pronoun is how someone is referred to, for example, he or she or ze, a good way to find out how someone identifies is to not only ask for someone’s name but their pronoun too. Some 

people avoid pronouns entirely.

Queer: An umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities.

Questioning: Someone who may be questioning their gender or sexuality.

Sapiosexual: Sexually attracted to intelligence.

Skoliosexual: Attraction to non-binary genders.

Sex: The sexual identity of an individual is defined by reproductive organs and chromosomes.

Sexuality: A person’s sexual orientation or preference.

Straight: Interchangeable with heterosexual.

Trans: An umbrella term to define the trans community. Can also be short for transgender.

Tranny: A derogatory term directed at trans people, although some may choose to identify this way or reclaim it.

Transition: The process of medically, socially or legally changing one’s gender or sex. This process is often to provide comfort and affirmation in one’s body or identity.

Transgender: Also known as trans, it is an all-inclusive umbrella term for people whose gender identity does not line up with the gender they were assigned at birth. This can include medically, 

socially and legally transitioning, if it desired by the individual.

Unsure: Someone who feels unsure of their sexuality and or gender identity.

Pronouns

Male pronouns: he/him/his

Female pronouns: she/her/hers

Neutral pronouns: they/them/theirs

NOVUS RELEASES FIRST NIGERIAN TRAP/DRILL MUSIC PLAYLIST ON APPLE MUSIC

 

Coming into the scene professionally in 2015, Independent musician&record producer Ademola Adegbite also known as Kannon has been able to set himself apart by dabbling in different forms of entrepreneurship in the music space.

Earlier this year, Kannon had his song "Face" feature on the official soundtrack of a film starring Anto Lecky called "May 29" and also over saw production and engineering for rising Nigerian rap artist "Meji" who released his debut project "The One EP" which gained chart success by entering the top 20 Hip Hop albums on iTunes.

Now his company Novus (founded 2018) has released a Trap/Drill Music playlist for Apple Music (A first of its kind) called "Nigerian Trapaholics", this came as there has been a sudden craving for more of that type of sound within the youth in Nigeria. The playlist consists of Nigerian trap and rap artists such as Psycho YP, Cheque, Mojo, Olamide, Remy Baggins, Droxx & Mo'gunz, MI, Kannon, Meji, Hotyce etc. It also features Kannon's new single "Burn" featuring VIVE.

Listen To Nigerian Trapaholic Playlist

Meet Civilized Villagrr: A man expressing his ideas and views through murals and art on his city walls

   

     Art is like the sun,it shines and brings light to the dark corners of our society and in our country Nigeria we can't deny the emerging of young hungry artists on the rage to take over the city for good with their talented gifts of art. Today we spoke with Chibikem Obasi popularly known as Civilized Villagrr who is on the path of greatness expressing his ideas through murals and street art.

Tell us about yourself?

yo i’m civilizedvillagrr, i’m artist, street muralist and an art director based in Lagos, Nigeria. i love creating & designing what so ever comes to my mind to create, was born 14th Dec. i play video games & basketball just for the fun of it.

As an artist, what does art mean to you as a person?

Art is a means of self-expression for me, i express myself creating mostly on walls, canvases & digitally, i also doodle. 

In our society ,art is less or not appreciated enough ,why do you think so and what can we do to bring back our art culture?

the way things are going on it’s going to be a lot harder even, but i can’t really speak for the masses we have a lot we are facing in our society. the best way we can bring back art culture; me, you and every other person needs to keep doing what we are doing and do the least supporting for artists in today’s society.

A follower of your art will see that you never repeat your designs ,what bells the cat for you?

 

i just try not to put so much pressure on myself, i paint what i see. we all use colors but how well? and also consistency putting in that work back to back.

As a creative it's hard juggling your passion and real life issues, where do you get ideas for your art ?

the most high first off then my environs i go about & see things the colors in lagos yo!! everyday when you step out you’d see funny things so i’m that kind of artist.

Are you a self taught artist or you went to an art school?

i’m self taught.

How do you determine the prices of your art?

the content & the size.

Did you always want to be an artist? How did your journey of art start?

yh i mean i had the idea of studying something entirely different, started of 2017 a friend asked me to create some pieces for his event that he had faith in my works im like oh wow, from there the spark ignited.

What role does an artist have to play in the society?

 i can’t really say, i mean we have the tag artists so i guess it’s just to use our skills to pass messages to the society

What's your most embarrassing moment?

 

oh can’t say, that’s just for me alone

What memorable responses have you had to your work?

ahh i’ve heard a lot, i’m still hearing but all praise to jah for the ones that’s been heard in total.

Fast Rising Star Ganz releases his Debut Single “Story”

      Fast Rising Star, Gana Michael alias “GÄNZ”, is a singer, songwriter, recording artiste based in the Federal Capital Territory Abuja Nigeria,Born on the 1st of September 2002, he hails from Kwara State.

He is the founding father of his unique Genre “Afro Cruise” which has birth his Debut hit single “Story” which is available on all Streaming platforms,he recently dropped the Music Video which is available on YouTube.

The song titled “Story” tells a story about his life experiences, his journey to stardom and issues affecting his country Nigeria and the world at large these include; Rape,Police Brutality,Racism etc.

Click and Listen To Story By Ganz

Weed101: Beginners Guide For Smoking Marijuana

I know you're excited about this but let's not forget this special plant isn't legalized in our country yet but we ranked the 3rd most users of Marijuana in the world, who are the people using it? Me? You?the president?. Let's be guided, almost everyone you meet or have met smokes weed and as a beginner you should be aware of what you're smoking and how you should be smoking inorder to experience difficulties that might stop you from smoking forever or endangering your health or sanity. 

     One of the first things you should know about weed is that there is more than one high. Sativas and indicas are the two main types of weed. Both strains get you high in different ways and you should be able to differentiate between each without making mistakes. Sativas are mainly known for their "piney and cerebral high while Indicas are mainly known for their deep colors and body high. Some people choose sativas to get their creative juices flowing. Others light sativas up to reach that happy and cruisé mood while when you smoke an indica, the high's effects are felt throughout the body. Some people choose indicas to relieve pain or if you ever need help falling asleep indica has got the best trips for you. Some dealers in your city might be trapping (selling) on a low to avoid stories that touch so for you to have those numbers on speed dial you must appear to be trust worthy and a “sabi boy”.

No matter your urge to try out new strains as a newbie, PROCEED WITH CAUTION especially if you're new to smoking.

   If you're taking an edible for the first time please  DON'T EAT THE WHOLE THING AT ONCE. Many first timers make the mistake of gobbling down an edible and becoming overwhelmed by its effects, you might not cross back the line of sanity and you're OYO (On your own).

    For a city like Lagos where Marijuana is not legalized but we use it like it's legal, as a newbie you should know some ultimate rules to follow when trying to smoke a bud so you don't end up in the wrong hands.

•Please be mindful of your surroundings when you spark a blunt, you don't who is watching.

•Don't be the one that pressures others to smoke.

•Make Sure to Inhale but don't be scared to cough when necessary.

•Always ask before smoking in other people's houses. 

•Don't be the guy who ONLY talks about weed. 

•Be mindful of your limits: you CAN get too high.

•Don't smoke in front of kids you're not MAD.

•Respect people around you who might not like marijuana.

•Hydrate Like an Athlete.

•Never Smoke With Sketchy People.

•Build your smoking pack.

ABC Of Weed

A- Ashtray, Awesome Adventures

B- Blunt, Bowl, Baby Oja

C- Cravings, Crusher , Colorado 

D- Dry mouth, Dealer , Drags

E- Eye drops

F- Forgetful friends,Fagbo 

G- Green Grass

H- Happy, Hit, Herb, High

I- Ideas

J- Joint , Japa

K- Kronic , Kush

L- Lighter , Loud ,La-La 

M- Munchies, Mary Jane, Marijuana , Mexican Airlines

N- Nuggets ,NFK (Not For Kids)

O- One love , Oja ,

P- Puff Puff Pass, Pipe, Pot

Q- Quiet time

R- Roll , Rizzla

Get To Know:Sara Bloom

Saralee "Sara Bloom" Payne, an upcoming artist from Jamaica, who is multi talented in song, poetry  article and speech writing, drumming, singing, cooking, dancing event planning, speaking and teaching. Born on December 25th, 22 years old and she have been writing since 13 years old, then I started writing more seriously at 18 years old and as time progressed she got the inspiration to start releasing my creations in 2018 at 20 years old. She made herself available to perform at whatever open mic events she could and The Apollo Series by Simon The Writer was always welcoming. Soon after recording my first official song with producer JLL, I decided to start building a fanbase by uploading it to my soundcloud. Every one was really pleased to see me make that move. “Sara Bloom is art in herself, as an essence that seeks to emanate peace, love, unity and good vibes. Everyone knows I'm good for that. My music and poetry can be about anything surrounding sound and unsound emotions, life experiences, controversies or just vibing. I would say I'm in the genres of Hip Hop, RnB with a little Jazz and Reggae bit not limited.  I’m a groovy person, naturally I just love to dance, sing, think and express, so it goes together for me”. 

I am also always interested in encouraging others to trod on a journey that allows them to discover themself and all they can do. Which is especially why I've decided to be a curator for art shows that are inclusive of multiple artists with different art forms, bringing forth vibes that are unusual from a typical party. 

While she's creating new songs and also pending a deal from a Record Label, I'm the director for the performing arts department at an Early Childhood School in Spanish Town, where she officiate Dance and Speech classes with 3-6YROs. In the meantime, I'm self developing in every way possible. I'm planning on releasing a poetry book and album in a couple months. I don't operate with a fixed team but there are people who I have been so grateful for working with, who recommend and assist me from time to time. Sometimes my content exposure gets delayed because of not being able to execute ideas with limited resources or not having a sustainable team but at the same time not having sponsors did not stop me from curating two events 9 months apart. I know time and opportunities can be mysterious and I'm very humble yet determined about where I am and where I'm going. I'm really looking forward to all the beautiful and talented people I will meet along the way. I'm hoping to have bountiful connections and endless playing records. To wrap up, Sara Bloom just Blooms, flows, and grows especially if fed worthy truths and hopes. Click Here to listen to her Songs

Nigerian jollof: Where To Find The Best Jollof In Lagos

 Nigeria is blessed with culture and mineral resources and yes, if you have heard of Nigeria before you must have heard about the great Nigerian jollof. Jollof rice is arguably the most popular dish in Nigeria. This great dish is expected to be served at all parties, including weddings, funerals, birthdays, conferences and yes at protests venues. Its atypical taste and attractive looks and color gives a mouth watery feeling in your system. Resturants cash in on the popularity of the great jollof. We compiled a list of places you can get yummy Nigerian jollof in Lagos.

THE PLACE RESTAURANT, IKOYI

 

     Wheteher you want to eat in or order it online from the comfort of your home, with an outstanding reputation of one of the best restaurants, THE PLACE never disappoints. Jollof rice and fried rice may be served with chicken, turkey, barbeque or snails.

YELLOW CHILLI, VICTORIA ISLAND

     The Yellow Chilli is rated one of the top 4 restaurants in Lagos and you can place a bet on them  having one of the best jollof in Lagos, with outlets at Victoria island and Ikeja. If you know Yellow Chilli well, you'd be aware of its Jollof Fiesta which contains diced chickens and seafood such as shrimps and prawns along with pepper sauce which has won the heart of many Nigerians. Its a must taste.

BUKKA HUT, LEKKI

  It has outlets in Lekki, Ikoyi, Ajah, and Gbagada, as well as the local airport. The restaurant serves both local and intercontinental dishes as well as the popular jollof. Its Nigerian party flavor taste is highly rated and has a very unique taste.

THE FOOD LOUNGE, TERRA CULTURE

     The restaurant section of Terra culture, one of Nigeria's popular cultural centers and its also known for its dining experience. It caters both local and intercontinental dishes. The Jollof rice can be ordered with various proteins of your choice. Did you know that Richard Quest of CNN did a piece of the jollof at the lounge in 2017.

CHICKEN REPUBLIC

          Chicken republic is known as a fast food restaurant that serves varieties of Nigerian local dishes including Jollof rice, as well as continental dishes. With several outlets located in the city, the republic does not compromise on its quality across its different locations..

Get To Know:The Ignis Brothers

 The band was formed in June 2017 by its first members Dwin The Stoic, Ruka, and Lamide. In March 2018, the band released their first official single "Braveheart", the track was featured on Dwin The Stoic's debut album "Heavy Heart" which was released to numerous positive vibes. In June 2019, the band released the first single off their planned debut album. The song, titled "Alien at Home" was released with a music video directed by LexAsh. The last single from

the album - "Free" - was released in April 2020.

Following the exit of one of the members, the band announced the album title and release date in July 2020. Their debut album "The Cost of Our Lives" was released on the 14th of August, 2020 and has since garnered many positive reviews, with one particular review calling it the best Nigerian Album of the year.

Things To Know Before Going For A Threesome

If you have made the decision with your partner to invite a third party into your sexual relations with your active or passive partner,you might think the hardest part is over. You have to figure out how to make everybody comfortable,orgasms and severely enjoy themselves.The goal is to have a drama free,romantic and pleasurable threesome. Getting on the same sexually with one, let alone two is tough but never impossible. We would be talking about things to do when you're in this situation.

HACK 1: MAKE SURE EVERYBODY IS COMFORTABLE

If you agreed to have a threesome, its best everyone is connected with one or both partners equally and everyone is into doing it. its advisable for the participants to know each other before time,hang out ,have conversations both sexually and emotionally Never have a threesome simply because your partner wants it and you don't, it has to be a two way agreement.

HACK 2: SET BOUNDARIES AND STICK TO IT

To post avoid threesome regrets, its essential to discuss and create boundaries between you,your partner and the third party before the actual sex day. Once the session starts,everyone might get heated and carried away that you might even break your rules but creating boundaries will help and save the day.

HACK 3: FOCUS ON PLEASING EVERYONE

I don't have to stress this more than what the hack says, this is the most important hack to avoid losing the mood or vibe.

HACK 4: NO VIDEOS TODAY COME TOMORROW

You're not in an art exhibition room where you press your phones and take selfies or videos, you're in  a F##KING THREESOME, except your partners want you to make videos its criminal to make videos when you should be getting the work done, you  can be prosecuted for it.

HACK 5: PLEASE SMELL NICE AND TAG ALONG SEXY UNDERWEARS

You have to be sexy and smell nice.....you don't want to let everyone know you smell awful or you forgot to brush your teeth.

HACK 6: SAFE SEX IS NON NEGOTIABLE

Your souvenirs should be good memories and not STIs or Herpes or unwanted pregnancy. Its okay for you and your partner to have unprotected sex but this time you're bringing in someone who is most likely sleeping with other people. Its important to discuss everyone's status and safer sex rules.

HACK 7: YOU COULD CATCH FEELINGS INSTEAD OF FLIGHTS.

Threesomes can be exciting and enticing,you and your partner could both really like the experience and want to blend it into your regular sex life. Locking eyes with your partner while he penetrates your new

friend from behind and she throws it back and moans his name could build an image she wont like. If trust and communication is not key in your relationship, you should have a rethink on bringing a stranger to share your bed.

HACK 8: WHAT HAPPENS INSIDE STAYS INSIDE

 

It's normal to reminisce and play the memories in your head and enjoy the flashbacks but it's abnormal telling everyone details of what's playing in your head.

Afro-Fusion Sensation Bolu Ajibade Delivers Dance-floor Ready Tune With “Gbas Gbos”

Following the release of his last single “Old Soldier” which featured Buju, Afro-fusion sensation, BOLU AJIBADE released his brand-new single “Gbas Gbos” on October 9. Over the infectious upbeat track produced by Trill Xoe, BOLU AJIBADE is enveloped with confidence, dishing out words of warning to anyone who comes with trouble. Wielding his dreamy vocals and strength at inventing lamba-driven words, the mix of groovy percussion and airy synths serve as the perfect accompaniment to BOLU AJIBADE’s catchy lyrics.   

BOLU AJIBADE has constantly shown himself as one of the captivating voices on the continent thanks to a radiant voice that can convey several emotions. With Gbas Gbos, he proves that again.  

                                      ABOUT BOLU AJIBADE

BOLU AJIBADE is an eclectic performing artiste from Canada. Born in Nigeria, West Africa. Bolu is a writer, singer and producer whose sound could best described as diverse Afrobeats. His ability to swing into different genres, keeping his Afro vibe makes him unique. He started 2020 on a high note; by sharing with the world his single with Buju #OldSoldier, which was a rhythmic combination of an age-old phrase and the modern day afropop.

BOLU AJIBADE seeks to take a step further with his music as he plans to drop his next single come December 11, titled #MamiWater. 

4 Sex Topics You And Your Partner Should Discuss

Did you guys just start talking? or its a bit weird of talking about your sexual desires and fetish?

When your communication skills are topnotch in your love circle ,everything will be fine including great sex. when you become intimate with your partner, you discover a lot of hidden desires. Before you visit her holy land if you want to minimize the chances of an awkward moment in bed,knowing each others desire and past is key in kicking off the right foot.

1] Desires Fetish and Fantasies 

its essential for couples to discuss about their fetish and sexual pleasures so as to know when and how to connect with your partner. Use of toys,oils and potion are pretty standard but if you're a bondage queen or secret dominant give your partner a heads up. Many have been single for a while and their sex life has gone east,don't be worried there is a cure for it. Never underestimate your lovers bedroom interest with  people that discuss about sex,there often think of vaginal intercourse but its more than that; Anal or Oral sex also counts yes? Are you ready for all three? Is your partner ready to talk? It clarifies boundaries

2] Discuss Your Future Plans And Sexual History

Do not leave it to your partner to look out for your best interests. Your sexual health is your responsibility like the saying "What you don't know might hurt you". Its okay to to be fresh together,its certainly one that ends with you both feeling great about having a clean slate. Family planning is also a thing for safe and free sex,talk to your partners about birth control methods. I promise you nothing is more uncomfortable than dealing with an unplanned pregnancy.

3]Be Open About Your Sexual Secrets

In order to have a healthy sexual expression in the bedroom,its a brilliant idea that partners are honest about what has happened to them the good,bad and ugly. But the question is how do you approach such a touchy topic? Its best to initiate this conversation in private not in texts or in functions keyword is "IN PRIVATE"

QUICK HACK: "you can begin by letting your partner know that you have something you'd want to discuss with them but you feel uncomfortable about the conversation but you want to be honest".

NB: If you feel uncomfortable having sexual conversations or reveal your sexual past then you shouldn't be having sex with them.

4] Swap Roles And Calendars

You love it by 4am but they might be night crawlers,you're comfortable having sex 24/7 but you're partner is a two months guy.She loves to ride but you prefer from the back.You can be on different frequencies, this is important because a night person can take a morning sex rejection personally.